It’s Celebration Friday, and today I want to celebrate your goals. The fact is that it is part of our nuerology to be goal seeking. It is a natural part of who we are. As you probably already know there is a difference between seeking and achieving.
If you want to be more successful at achieving goals, then there are five questions that you absolutley must ask and answer for yourself. I will list and explain them below.
1. What Do You Want?
In answering this question, be sure to answer it in the positive. For example:
I want to be fit trim and vibrantly healthy.
I want to lose weight
2. How will you know when you have achieved it?
What will be different in your life that will let you know that you have achieved your goal? what will it look like, feel like, what will you hear? If your goal is to be fit trim and vibrantly healthy, some of the things that might let you know you have achieved it are a) you’re able to fit into the clothes you wore in college, b) you can run a mile without huffing and puffing, c) you feel energized throughout the day, d) people are complimenting you on the way you look, etc.
3. Is it within your control?
Is the goal something you can achieve on your own, or do you need help/cooperation from someone else? In the example above, you could most likely achieve it on your own (although you may need to consult various sources for information).
What if you said your goal was to get a new job? Is that within your control? Not really. You have to rely on someone else making the decision to hire you. If I were coaching you, I would suggest that you tweek the goal to something you can control. Perhaps stating something like I want to be prepared to accept a new job. Preparing yourself is definitely within your control.
4. Will achieving your goal have any negative impact on you or anyone/anything you care about?
Too often we never think of any possible negative consequences of achieving our goals. What if your goal is to prepare yourself to accept a new job, and you are offered a job in which you must be away from home 3-5 days a week. If you are recently married and have a newborn son, accepting the job would achieve your goal, however the negative consequences may not be worth it.
5. What would be an immediate next step you could take toward achieving your goal?
If your goal is to be fit, trip and vibrantly healthy, you might decide to start walking ten or more minutes a day. If your goal is to prepare yourself to prepare yourself to accept a new job, then you might choose to sign up for a new class to become stronger in one of your areas of weakness.
By asking and answering the five questions above you ensure that you are giving your subconscious mind the information it needs to assist you in achieving your goal. You also ensure that you are not wasting your time on a goal that is either not within your control, or that may negatively impact yourself or someone you care about.
I encourage you to take the time in the begining to explore these questions, and you will set yourself up to be much more successful in achieving your goals.