In today’s post on The Secrets of Personal Development from A-Z I will discuss the importance of the Agreements we make in our everyday lives.  There are a couple of reasons that I believe agreements are so vital to our Personal Development.

First of course is that the agreements we make and keep (or don’t keep) are a reflection of our integrity and authenticity.  Second we expend a great deal of energy in either keeping our agreements, or being upset that we agreed to something we really didn’t want to do in the first place.

Everything Is Energy

You’ve heard it said that “Everything Is Energy”.  To me one of the foundational principals of personal development is learning how to use our energy in the most efficient manner possible in furthering our development and serving the highest good of all concerned.

It is for this reason that I would encourage you to really check within yourself before making an agreement with someone else (or even yourself).  Some questions you may want to ask yourself before making an agreement are:

Can I from a place of integrity and authenticity say yes to this agreement and mean it?

Will making this agreement further my life’s purpose?

Is their anyone who would suffer or be hurt by my making this agreement?

Is this agreement for my highest good and the highest good of all concerned?

In order to answer these questions you need to be clear about what your life’s purpose, and what you stand for.  When know your purpose and why it is important to you, it becomes much easier to say no without guilt and say yes with enthusiasm when these are the authentic answers for you.

In time you will know almost instantly whether making an agreement is right for you.  In the process you will release a lot of energy that was previously tied up in guilt, frustration, and annoyance etc.  this newly released energy can than be put to better use in other areas of your personal development.

The keys making authentic agreements for me are:

1.  Never say yes when you want to say no.

2. When you say yes use your energy to do whatever it takes to fulfill that agreement rather than complain about making it.

3.  When you say no, trust your decision and let it go.  don’t waste energy feeling guilty or second guessing yourself.

4.  Always remember the most important agreements you make are with yourself.

Be Aware Of Your Feelings When You Make Agreements

In developing yourself to make agreements with integrity, you may want to take sometime this week and just observe what you feel inside when you make them.  As you do this remember all agreements are important.  Even agreeing to meet someone at 6pm and showing up at 6:08pm is agreement not kept.

It’s these “little agreements” that we tend to discount as “not that important”, and yet overtime they create patterns and habits that don’t serve us.  As I mentioned in a previous post about the impoertance of Awareness, we need to be aware fully aware of the agreements we make and why.

So this week simply be aware of your agreements and how you feel about them when you make them, it is quite possible that this will create a dramatic shift in which you are able to easily make your future agreements from a place of authenticity and integrity.

Coming up in the next post we are going to move on to the B’s with Blessings, and discovering how choosing to look at everything in your life as a blessing will go a long way in furthering your personal development.

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